You may not be aware — but you have coached yourself several times. In life’s challenging moments, we have all talked ourselves in and out of things despite the risks and uncertainty attached. That right there is self-coaching.
We will share 5 questions to ask yourself whenever you feel challenged or stuck in any area of your life. These questions are very powerful and can cause some resistance at first. However, if you are committed to self-growth — these questions can be your umbrella on a rainy day.
They say in coaching, the presenting topic is never the real topic. And so, finding answers requires exploring with more questions.
Who am I?
- What do I want? This tells you where your inner compass wants to point.
- Think about what is it that you want to achieve. The fundamental premise of coaching is to get you from where you are to where you want to be. When we work with our clients, we spend a lot of time understanding what outcome the client is looking for and imagining their desired future.
2. What is my desire telling me about myself? Identify your values right here.
- Once you have identified what you want, start exploring what this desire to achieve is telling you about who you are. Are you someone who is driven by power and status and thus are somebody looking for that next promotion? Or, is there something else driving the desire you mentioned?
3. How am I getting in my own way? What you end up doing instead of what you want to do.
- Often there is a disconnect between what we think we should be doing and what we are actually doing. Often times, it’s the things we can’t see that get in the way of who we want to show up as. It’s how we talk to ourselves, what we tell ourselves about the outcome we want — are we limiting ourselves, are we unconsciously thinking we won’t make it? To deal with this, take a list of everything that comes to your mind when you think about how you are holding yourself back.
Self-coaching stems from your ability to harness your inner wisdom and experiences to make choices that are best for you.
And who do I want to be?
4. And, how else? Keep digging.
- Here comes the interesting part. The moment we ask ourselves this question, our brain starts presenting all the information that may be unconsciously tucked away. Get creative – out of the box here – and start thinking of all the others ways you may be getting in your own way.
5. So what’s next? Identify the solution and pick one small move.
- This is something your brain knows how to do really well. Planning. Strategizing. Making action plans. Always end a self-coaching inquiry by thinking about at least one thing you can do to begin moving towards the version of you that you want to be.
Thiyah Invitation: Make some time this week to pick an area in your life you want to grow towards, disconnect from the internet, grab a pen and paper and attempt these five questions. You can thank us later 🙂